Game notes: Podcasting on hookups, and the Model of College Friend Group Interaction

April 21, 2011

The fine gentlemen at Coffee & Markets were kind enough to let me ramble* on their podcast today about Facebook and hookups, which you can listen to here.

In case you wanted a YAY/NAY on the topic: I don’t think the fact that 70-something percent of college students hook up with a few people in college is really an issue for the individual, in isolation. You like to drink, so do we, etc. etc. But much like the preventative medicine model, where one person getting cancer screening is a good decision, but everybody getting cancer screening bankrupts a nation or whatever, I’m interested in what happens when the social model undergoes a monolithic shift like that.

Also, while we’re here, let’s make my model of college interaction a little more accurate. In the podcast, I stipulate that if you get together a group of friends of six girls and six guys by junior year, three of the girls will have hooked up with one of the guys.

That should really looks something more like this: You start with eight girls and four guys. Within two years:

  • Two of the girls will have hooked up with one guy.
  • Another two of the girls will have hooked up with the second guy.
  • One, third girl will have hooked up with the third guy. This is most likely the one long-term relationship produced by this group.
  • Some girl who’s mutual friends with the other girls in the group, but not in that original group, will have dated one of the above three guys. He will now leave the group in general.

There’s more to that model, but someone told me to stop giving away all this RIVETING knowledge away in one batch, for free, so, I’m saving how I work pontooning and the Bloomsbury Circle into my explanation of the friend dynamics for another time. Anyway, podcasting is a blast.

*Every time I listen to myself talk, I realize I need to work on “talking.” The instances of “um” have improved over the past year, but the battle against “like” endures. The biggest issue is that I don’t really think in a linear fashion; for example, I didn’t know until very recently that most people write, generally, beginning to end — I write out of order and jump around, and then place pieces in order and fold up everything back together, accordion-style, until it works. I am a terrible storyteller in person for this reason, as I have a tendency to forget important details or belabor an aside that’s unimportant. So, trust me, I KNOW, and I’m working on it with the old fashioned Protestant work ethic.

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